245. Money Fights, Money Stories, and Better Couple Communication
On this episode of CFO at Home, Vince talks with Raffi Bilek, a marriage counselor and author of The Couples Communication Handbook:The Skills You Never Learned for the Marriage You Always Wanted. Vince and Ravi discuss why money is a top source of marital conflict and why financial disagreements are often a symptom of deeper issues like anxiety, resentment, or control. Raffi explains his process for helping couples move through conflict by slowing down, taking turns, identifying underlying feelings, practicing empathy, and exploring each partner·s ·money story,· so they can stay connected even without full agreement. Vince and Ravi also discuss how solutions should address both partners· needs (e.g., security vs. autonomy), and why separate finances can sometimes signal a lack of trust. For more on Raffi and The Couples Communication Handbook, go to thecommunicationbook.com
01:05 Money Fights
02:11 Finances and Marital Disagreements
05:04 Money Is A Symptom
08:23 Getting Past Defensiveness
10:26 Money Stories Matter
12:49 From Empathy To Plan
15:46 Control And Trauma
19:15 Teaching The Skill
22:48 Joint Vs Separate Accounts
26:58 Parting Advice And Book
29:24 Where To Find Raffi
30:13 Final Thanks
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